I have to admit, I think Valentine’s Day is a little silly. The history of the actual figure, St. Valentine of Rome, is vague at best, and the holiday we know today is little more than a boon for the vendors of greeting cards, diamonds, flowers, chocolates, and teddy bears. (Have a look at this ridiculous ad and tell me that this holiday hasn’t reached out-of-control proportions.)
Do we put too much pressure on Valentine’s Day? I would answer that with a resounding YES.
The stated goal of the holiday is to show someone you care about them. But If we don’t have a partner, if we are upset with our partner, if we can’t afford diamonds, if we don’t care about flowers, if we can’t get the perfect reservation … you get the point. It’s too much pressure for those IN a relationship and too depressing for those NOT in a relationship. How has a holiday that was meant to encourage love and affection turned into this chaotic, one-upping mess?
Be Yours, Not Mine – I’m saying that today to encourage you to take back Valentine’s Day. Make it about loving yourself, about treating everyone around you (including yourself) with love and respect, and take the commercial and material expectations out of it.
If you are not in a relationship, take yourself on a date; treat yourself to a night of relaxation at home with a book or movie; invite friends over for a potluck. If you are in a relationship, agree that today isn’t about gifts or expectations, and instead do something extra around the house or offer a foot massage, or just be your usual, amazing self.
My husband and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, because we feel that it’s important to show each other appreciation, love, and devotion year-round, and that material gifts on a day when it’s expected aren’t necessarily the best way to do that.
This Valentine’s Day, I challenge you to remove yourself from the hustle and bustle and redefine the holiday into something with less pressure and expectation.
Let me know what you come up with — we could start a revolution!